Michelle and Barack Obama’s love life has got everyone around the world talking and wishing for such love and happiness in their own marriage. Haven been married for 25 years (they got married on October 3rd, 1992) both treat each other like newlyweds, this couple is definitely one to learn from in order to have a happy marriage.
Though we all see a perfect marriage from afar but there is no perfect marriage that has not gone through rough stages, even theirs. In an interview on Ellen DeGeneres Show, Michelle has said that she has learned to forgive some of the president’s habits. “What I’ve come to find is, you don’t sweat the small stuff.” “The journey that we’ve taken together, the fun we’ve had, the challenges we’ve faced, the two beautiful children that we’re raising — I kind of give him a pass now when he leaves his socks on the floor or tells that story for the one hundredth time and wants us to laugh at it as if we first heard it.”
Flirt with Your Partner in Public – They show their love in addition to being vocal about the hard work it takes to make a marriage thrive. Of course, we’ve seen many inspiring photos of the couple cuddling during one of their date nights out, or as they’ve casually flirted around the White House, but they are clear with us that marriage is more than those lovable moments.
Show your Partner that You Care Constantly – In Barack’s farewell speech, he addressed Michelle by stating:
“Michelle LaVaughn Robinson of the South Side, for the past twenty-five years, you’ve been not only my wife and mother of my children, but my best friend. You took on a role you didn’t ask for and made it your own with grace and grit and style and good humour. You made the White House a place that belongs to everybody. And a new generation sets its sights higher because it has you as a role model. You’ve made me proud. You’ve made the country proud.” This is not the first occasion that Barack has recognized his wife’s outstanding qualities.
We often forget to show our partner that we care about what they are doing in their daily lives. Not communicating creates a barrier between you two.
Joke with Each Other – The Obamas are playful and are not afraid to laugh. The Obamas know how to have fun, and not to take everything so seriously. They are best friends. Barack and Michelle do not just treat each other as partners – this is required with any relationship. Open up, and let the other person see you for who you really are.
Create a “we” time with your Partner – Michelle in an interview said “It might be a little tough, but we try to make out time to go for date nights”. We all find a way to create time for work, to plan our day and other important things no matter what but we have to create time to spend with our partner as well.
Build Your Relationship on a Strong Foundation – A strong foundation leads to success. According to the Obamas “If you have a strong foundation, it will be hard for a job or change in social status to ruin your relationship”. Michelle Obama’s speech at the Democratic Nation Convention, September 2012 – “Our life before moving to Washington was filled with simple joys. Saturdays at soccer games, Sundays at grandma’s house and a date night for Barack and me was either dinner or a movie, because as an exhausted mom, I couldn’t stay awake for both. And the truth is, I loved the life we had built for our girls and I deeply loved the man I had built that life with and I didn’t want that to change if he became president. I loved Barack just the way he was.”
When the Obamas were asked what other couples can learn from their marriage, they said, “Even the best of marriages require a lot of work—even if you’re married to your soul mate who has very few flaws.” Michelle further added, “Building a life with a person other than yourself, and raising kids and dealing with all of the bumps and the bruises and the joys and the pains that go along with life, that creates the natural state of marriage, and it’s a challenge.”
Regardless of the work, Michelle Obama urges young couples to keep going, and to remember why they fell in love in the first place. Even after watching her husband navigate such a difficult presidency, she has said, “when people ask me whether being in the White House has changed my husband, I can honestly say that when it comes to his character, and his convictions, and his heart, Barack Obama is still the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.”
“The Obamas have portrayed marriage, and relationships in a positive light. They encourage, and challenge each other. The Obamas are showing the world what true love is, and there is a lot we can learn from their marriage”.