Heart breaks are passing phases which most people have experienced once, twice or multiple times in their relationships especially ladies; men too experience heart breaks but the proportion is more for the ladies. If you have ever experienced disappointment from a loved one, you will understand how difficult it is to cope, mend your heart and move on. Some ladies have committed suicide as a result of heart break while other ladies have been given jail term because they murdered the person who broke their hearts while many more are on admission in hospitals for depression, psychological related ailments etc.
Nursing a broken heart is a harrowing endeavour. Once you can accept what happened and prepare to take care of yourself and your emotions, you’ll be able to move on and grow past it. Your focus should be on the path of recovery rather than hanging in there. You will be covered with disappointment and deep sadness but you need to develop a great inner strength as this will be helpful in the current situation.
What will you do if you experienced a heart break in a relationship that you have invested so much in?
When heart break happens, the first thing is to learn the lessons associated with it and move on with your life. Don’t drown yourself in unanswered questions about love and the future, don’t question your capabilities but learn to forgive yourself. Don’t try to convince him to re-consider his ‘breakup’ decision because he was not meant to be the special one in the first place. It is also not advisable to turn down other love proposals as a result of a heart break because your special one is out there and you will meet him someday. Reach out to a friend/family member to share your story with rather than lock yourself away in isolation. One thing to keep in mind is that you will eventually feel like yourself when you decide to move on by keeping yourself (and your mind) busy at learning a new skill, attending a yoga & dance class, exercising etc – you will experience peace in these amazing things over your distressed situation.
Heart break is not a final straw but lessons to be learnt from it will go a long way in building the person you are, your future relationship and eventually your marriage; i.e. you need to hold on to the lessons learnt from the heart break because they will be useful tools afterwards.
Getting through a break up can be difficult. Give yourself what you need to let your healing unfold day by day. The healing process may take long but the pain and hurt will lessen gradually and your heart will be open to love again.